There’s a lot of things that you’ll need to take care of when it comes to your wedding, but it’s important not to lose track of one crucial detail: that not all the details should be given equal importance. You want everything to be perfect, but the truth is that guests aren’t paying attention to every small aspect your wedding. Focus on the details that matter, and ignore the rest: you’ll save time, energy, and money, and you’ll lose nothing when it comes to the magic of your day.
Important: The Food
Your guests are going to be spending many hours with you; you’re going to need to feed them! When it comes to the sit-down meal, make sure you’re serving food that is far from the usual – this is your chance to show off the quality of your taste buds. You should be meeting with numerous caterers before your wedding and tasting their food. If you’re unsure of what good food tastes like (don’t worry: many don’t), take along someone who does.
Unimportant: Late Night Food
The meal is important, because that’s part of the wedding day. Sitting down, a well-prepared table, ready to chat with friends old and new – it’s one of the best parts of the day! The food then is important, but do you know when it’s not important what you serve? The late night food. At that time, people just want to eat – they’re not looking for a gourmet culinary experience! A bunch of pizzas will go down better than intricately presented finger food. They’re just looking to recharge before hitting the dancefloor again.
Important: The Entertainment
The ceremony is the heart of the wedding; the party is its soul. After the ceremony, and then the food, people want to party and dance the night away. This means that you need to get the entertainment aspect of the wedding just right. Take a look at the best wedding bands, and choose one that plays the kind of music that your friends and family will love. After the band has finished playing, it’s all about the DJ, who should be able to navigate between music that’ll suit all guests at the wedding. Don’t forget to add a few of your favourite tracks to the playlist, too.
Unimportant: Whether Everyone’s Dancing All Night
You would like everyone to be dancing all night, but you know what people hate? It’s being forced to dance when they’d rather be chatting with some of the friends and relatives they’ve not see in a long time. It’s fine to ask everyone to get on the dance floor for a few dances, but don’t harass people if they’re not up there all night long. The focus should be making sure that everyone is having a good time, not how fun your party looks from the outside. In any case, don’t worry, people usually dance anyway!
Important: A Toast
People aren’t just at your wedding to eat, drink, and dance. They’re there to celebrate the love you have for one another! A big part of that will be the speeches given by the best man, or the bridesmaid, or the father of the bride. It’ll be nice for them to stand out, raise their glass, and say a few words – and perhaps a couple of embarrassing stories – about the newly married couple. It’ll give everyone an opportunity to look back over the relationship, see how far it’s come, and where it’s going in the future.
Unimportant: An Hour Long Speech
A toast is a lovely part of the wedding day, but let’s be honest: the only thing worse than no toast at all is one that goes on for far too long. If you think that a person might have page after page of notes, gently remind me that they should only be speaking for between two and five minutes. It’s not that people aren’t interested in what they have to say, it’s just that most people don’t have the capacity to hold the attention of a room for more than a few minutes. Unless you have a professional giving the toast, keep things short!
Important: Saying Thanks
You’re going to have a long list of guests, some of whom will have travelled from far and wide to be there with you. This is a level of love and friendship that shouldn’t go unnoticed! At some point during the ceremony, find the time to give thanks, both in a speech and individually. They’re all happy to be there with you, of course, but who doesn’t like to be thanked when they’ve made a special effort? In any case, it’ll make them feel welcome and ready to have a good time!
Unimportant: Going Overboard
You’ll want to give thanks to everyone, but there’s no reason to go overboard. You can spend a lot of time and money making sure that your guests feel well valued, but the truth is that most guests don’t care so much about things like wedding favours and the like. If you have an idea that’s easy to implement, then sure, go ahead and do it – but it’s not a detail that you should be losing any sleep over.
Important: Making It Special
You can’t phone in a wedding. It’s going to require a lot of planning, and considerable amounts of money, too. Nobody wants to go to a wedding where the bride and groom obviously haven’t put any thought or care into what the day looks like. After all, this is one of the most special days of their life! What does it say about them if it’s not a magical day?
Unimportant: Making It Perfect
Make it special, yes. Make it perfect? No. There are a handful of details that’ll make your day memorable. But others will have no impact whatsoever; they’ll just distract you from enjoying your day! Don’t focus on making it perfect. Just focus on making the day enjoyable for all the right reasons. If it’s a great day, then that’s all that matters.