9 things couples in a healthy relationship never do

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Are you a newlywed couple? Here are some great ideas on what not to do to make your relationship a success! Don’t we all want a healthy relationship that thrives? Here are some tips:

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  1. Arguments that are in the past, are in the past – no matter how much it hurt you. It is not healthy to keep track of everything your loved one does wrong, because it prevents you both from forgiving what happened.
  2. Fake or insincere apologies. So not: ‘I’m sorry, but you…’; but just a simple ‘I’m sorry’. Some people say sorry so they can say something about what their loved one did, but it’s better not to do that. That only leads to new arguments and that is never good. If you want to tell him that something has hurt you, confront him immediately. Then you can talk things out and you will only understand each other better.
  3. Blaming their partner for something bad that happened. You don’t tell your love that he doesn’t care enough or is irresponsible and that’s why he didn’t get a promotion. That’s very mean. Couples with a healthy relationship are positive. They give points of improvement and encourage each other to do better.
  4. Using something from their partner’s life against them. Your partner talks about his problems and stories in confidence – so that you know why he is the way he is and you get to know him better. And it’s not okay to say things like “You’re a pain in the ass just like your mother” or “I’m not surprised you don’t have many friends.” No. Just no.
  5. Post negative things about each other on social media. It doesn’t matter that the other person may seem to deserve it, you don’t make a fool of your partner in front of all your friends, acquaintances and colleagues. That’s really rude and it says more about you than it does about him. If you are angry with your partner, tell him so you can work it out. And if you really don’t feel like it anymore, it might be better to split up.
  6. Going all out to other people about their partner. Every now and then it’s nice to talk to your best friends when he hurt you. But if you destroy him in front of other people, you damage his image, reputation and your relationship.
  7. Making their lives all about their partner. A good relationship is based on two independent people who love each other. It is wonderful to build a life together, because it is about the dreams and choices you make for the future. But what if your whole life revolves around one person who can leave you? So what will happen when he’s gone?
  8. Not apologizing. Some people don’t like to admit when they are wrong. It could be pride or shame. But in any case, the person who is wrong should also be able to say sorry. It may not solve everything, but it does give the other person a good feeling and then things can also be solved.
  9. Not forgiving someone. When you are angry, you may feel powerful when someone asks you for forgiveness. But continuing to feel this way isn’t going to do anything good for your relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship don’t intentionally make their partner feel bad because they love him/her.
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