Bachelorette parties can be a lot of fun, but they also usually take a lot of planning to get right. The tough thing about these parties is that there are usually many women with many different personalities, both friends of the bride and family, so finding ways for everybody to have fun can be super stressful.
However, here we’re going to take some of the stress out of it for you by giving you ways to plan to suit everybody. Pay attention and by the end of this guide you’ll have a very good idea of what to do. Enjoy!
Don’t Worry Too Much About Who Plans It
Usually, the person who plans the bachelorette party is the maid of honor, however, there are some exceptions. For example, if the MOH isn’t much of a planner, or has a family to look after, perhaps one of the bridesmaids could take over the planning instead. There’s also the possibility of making it a more collaborative effort with everybody, discussing what you would all like to do and perhaps what is best to avoid.
If you’re planning it, it’s important to take your ego out of it and allow everybody to have a say. You won’t be able to make everybody 100% happy, but making sure you’re not being bossy and controlling is important. You don’t want a whole lot of resentment flying around when everybody is supposed to be having fun.
Ask About Everybody’s Budget
Make sure you’re considerate of everybody’s budget. You want to do something that everybody is going to be able to afford. Looking at the most expensive bachelorette weekends is fine if you all have a lot of money to blow on the occasion, but it’s likely that not everybody will. It could be a good idea to allow some people to opt out of certain activities if they are expensive, and invite them to something else. For example, many bachelorette parties will include things like a meal, and activity such as a dance or pottery class (depending on your personalities), and perhaps even something more than that. It’s nice to give certain people the option so they don’t feel like they have to go into debt for this event.
Consider The Bride’s Personality
The bride is your guest of honor, so you really need to consider her personality when you’re planning. You want to make the whole party comfortable, but the main person you’re trying to please is the bride. Will she be happy with a bunch of single ladies on the town and a load of inflatable private parts, or would she prefer a quiet slumber party vibe with her nearest and dearest? You can even have a mix of both, but again, it depends on the budget.
Picking A Date
Picking a date is probably the hardest part of planning a bachelorette party to suit everyone. These parties can happen anywhere between 4-1 month before the wedding, and sometimes even on the weekend of the wedding depending on whether everybody has to travel far to get together.
You will never be able to choose a date that suits absolutely everybody. You should choose a date that works for her 3-4 best people, i.e. the maid of honor, bridesmaids, and her mother, and then stick to that. Other people will either have to book the day off work, call in sick, find a sitter, or miss out. Do not stress out too much about this.
Just remember it’s a good idea to collaborate with the bride when picking a date to make sure it’s absolutely perfect for her.
Send Out Invites
You can write out an email or a Facebook message, but they can be a little informal – and people tend to get annoyed with some of the messages going back and forth. That’s the whole different personalities thing coming into play again! Instead, send out invites so that everybody can see the date and other information right in front of them and they can stick it to a noticeboard or on their fridge. Do it as far in advance as possible to give people the opportunity to make arrangements if they need to.
Plan Some Downtime For The Guests
It’s a good idea to plan some downtime so that you’re not all going at 100 miles an hour if this is going to be a whole weekend. You could plan a day at the spa, or even just give everybody some time to explore and do their own thing. Even extroverts who love to party will need some time to recuperate, so consider this as you plan.
Let Go Of Traditional Expectations of The Party
Bachelorette parties can be totally unique to the bride and her people. You don’t need to do what everybody else is doing if you don’t want to. There’s no need to even drink alcohol! Things like cocktail making classes and pole dancing classes might sound like a lot of fun to others, but if they aren’t for your group, don’t worry about it. In some cases, bachelor and bachelorette parties are even joining forces so that absolutely everybody can enjoy the fun. Discuss this with the bride so you know exactly what she wants.
Create Copies Of The Schedule For Everybody
Creating copies of the schedule and giving them to people will ensure everybody is on the same page and knows exactly what is going on and when. This saves you repeating yourself no end of times and everybody knows where they have to be and when, which is a must when you have a large group of people.
Hopefully, these ideas have helped you to plan an awesome bachelorette party that everybody is happy with. Remember, the bride is the most important guest, so focus on her and ensure she is enjoying herself most of all. Do you have any tips and tricks of your own for planning a party like this? Leave your thoughts below!
