If you feel that life suddenly looks much less rosy after the wedding than before, then we have listed some simple tips to make the sun shine again! You are not the only one with a post wedding depression its more common than you think
After the wedding
Does life get any better than this? The wedding is coming up, you have the best husband-to-be in the world and you are more than ready to start your new life as Mr and Mrs. But then suddenly, after all the festivities and the honeymoon, it seems like that huge balloon of happiness is slowly deflating…Believe it or not, some women fall into a deep black hole as soon as the honeymoon comes to an end.
What is the cause of this? But perhaps more importantly: how do you see the sun shining again?
Possible causes of post wedding depression
As with almost any problem, there can also be several causes. The most common cause of post wedding depression, however, is that you suddenly realize that starting this new life also means leaving a large part of your old life behind. Thoughts of remorse and doubt may arise. Did I do the right thing in getting married? The only way to get an answer to this question is to simply get rid of it. Do not constantly make a comparison with the past, but look for a challenge in the future and feel the potential of your new life situation. Because this is easier said than done, the tips below can help you on your way.
Tips for overcoming this depression after marriage
1. Talk to your partner
Talking to your partner is perhaps most essential. He knows you like no other and if you can’t share your feelings with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, then who? Important: don’t feel guilty about your feelings and throw it out! Besides being a relief, the fresh opinion of someone who is in the same factual situation can give you a different perspective on things.
2. View photos and videos from “the past”
Viewing this footage will not only put a smile on your face, but will also remind you how your love has grown over time. Read old letters, messages on your phone, on Facebook or other social networking/media sites. The butterflies will flutter through your stomach again in no time.
3. Meet up with friends and family
As mentioned earlier, it is important not to constantly look back. However, this does not mean that you should cut all ties with the past. Meet up with (old) friends and family. In all the hustle and bustle leading up to the wedding, this is probably a bit lost. In addition to some objective advice, it is wonderful to get a stomach ache from laughing again. And tell yourself, is there a better medicine than laughter?
4. Make a list of new goals in your life
Look for a new challenge. This can be a short or long term challenge. For example, plan a makeover for the interior of your home, sign up for a new course or go hardcore and train for a marathon. If you choose the New York one, you immediately have a good excuse for a nice trip together.
5. Pick up a (new) hobby
In addition to forgetting your negative thoughts, a hobby can give you a lot of positive energy. It’s good to pick up new hobbies or old hobbies you did before. Take a painting course, a cooking course, relax with yoga or sign up at a gym. Sports have been proven to release endorphins – the so-called happiness hormone in the brain. If you love animals, and have the time and space, this might be the time to get a puppy. The list of possibilities is endless.
Don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal to have to get used to your new life. If you see the future a bit gloomy, with the above post wedding depression tips you will see that your honeymoon does not have to come to an abrupt end!